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Jen A. Miller Consulting

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  • The 52-Week Challenge: One Reader’s Quest to be Superbly Single

    The 52-Week Challenge: One Reader’s Quest to be Superbly Single

    Serial monogamist Kristelle Siarza makes a promise to herself to stay single for one year.

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    Years ago when I heard Fergie’s “Clumsy,” part of the song caught my attention and made me immediately think of myself:

    You know this ain’t the first time this has happened to me
    This love sick thing.
    I like serious relationships, and uh
    A girl like me don’t stay single for long.
    ‘Cause every time a boyfriend and I break up
    My world is crushed and I’m all alone…
    The love bug crawls right back up and bites me, and I’m back.

    It has been ten years since I was last single: I was a 16-year-old at La Cueva High School, lonely after my move from the Bay Area to New Mexico. After that failed “high school sweetheart” relationship, the others fell in line one after the other with titles out of Carrie Bradshaw’s black book: “baby daddy,” “the Guatemalan,” and most recently, the “40-year-old.” All great relationships, all ending in heartbreak and tears.

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  • Flirting in the Freezer Aisle

    Flirting in the Freezer Aisle

    One Guy Lets TSD in on His Secret Strategy for Picking Up Dates

    Every now and then I think it’s a good idea to get a guy’s perspective on dating. We know they may be crazy but the more we learn about them the better chance we have of understanding why they do the things they do.
    I reached out to a male friend of mind and posed the question, “Where do you usually pick up girls?” I have to admit, his response surprised me.
    Photo Courtesy of Glamour
    Photo Courtesy of Glamour

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  • 10 Effortless Ways to Meet Mr. Right

    10 Effortless Ways to Meet Mr. Right

    Ten places to find a date without adding another to-do to that busy schedule of yours

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    As summer comes to a close, chances are any summer sparks you’ve ignited are about to reach the end of the wick. We at TSD say it’s time to let the summer flame burn out and set your sights on a fresh start.
    We all know that fall can be hectic and that none of us really has the time to go on the hunt for a good man. One option to solve that? Stay superbly single! Treat yourself to extra attention, set new goals, and focus on accomplishing them over the next quarter. We love that!
    For the rest of you, however, we know that the boy crazy-ness doesn’t disappear that easily. For you single girls, we started to think, how can we set ourselves up for potential matchmaking success without having to make time for it in our overloaded schedules? Are there situations right under our noses that we’ve been overlooking? Let’s rule out the places we intentionally go looking to pick up boys (the bar), and the places that we’d go only because we know they are laden with men (Home Depot, anyone?) and only consider the places we go in and out of in our daily routine. What are we doing day in and day out that we’ve never given thought to as potential situations for us to meet Mr. Right?

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  • Life Lessons from Tinder

    One Single Girl shares what she’s learned about herself, others, and how not to date through popular dating app Tinder.

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    Photo by Claire Folger – © 2011 Twentieth Century Fox Film Corporation. All rights reserved.

    As many of you online daters already know, there is an approximate 9:1 ratio of scary people to normal people in your pool of options. When my friend called me one evening, explaining the luscious and mysterious world that is Tinder, I denied that it would be the perfect fit for me. He was prepared for my skepticism, my remarks about the ratio, how it’s my worst fear, etc., so he simply said, “Think of all the people you can laugh at.”

    I was sold.
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