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Jen A. Miller Consulting

Tag: dating

  • 5 Truths About the Opposite Sex

    5 Truths About the Opposite Sex

    Answers to Your Top Dating Questions About the Opposite Sex

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    A few weeks ago we asked you to hit us with your most pressing dating questions. Why does he do that? What was he thinking when he said this? Where did he go? There are more things about men that flabbergast us then we could ever possibly count but a few questions were raised over and over. We took to the streets and brought these to a team of trusted male confidants to get the answers. Read on for the scoop behind 5 of your top dating questions about the opposite sex. Not only do we have the answers you’re looking for but we’ve also added in our advice to help you deal with the next situation a little easier. 

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  • 10 Ways to Show Your Love this Valentine’s Day

    10 Ways to Show Your Love this Valentine’s Day

    Inspired by Celebrations of Valentine’s Day Around the World

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    Here’s a fun fact, did you know that Valentine’s Day is celebrated in nearly every country across the world? The exact date and the name of the holiday may differ but almost unanimously our global society recognizes a day to celebrate love. For some nations the focus is on romantic love, for others friendships or family. Yet, at the heart of every celebration is a desire to show and grow our love for each other. Pretty spectacular when you think about it.

    By now you’ve probably run through all the traditional ways to celebrate V-Day—quirky cards, boxes of chocolate, teddy bears. This year, why not approach Valentine’s Day not just as a reason to give a gift but as a reason to sincerely show your love for all the people you appreciate in life?  The holiday may seem frivolous at first, but with the right mindset it can be an annual reminder to have fun, celebrate life, and enjoy the gift of loved ones.

    If you’re looking for a little inspiration, here are 10 ways you can show that special someone you care, inspired by different celebrations around the world.

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  • Why Does He Do That??

    We’re looking for your most pressing dating questions! 

    “When he said it was over between us do you think he really meant it? Or, do you think he just wants to take a break?”

    Ever found yourself asking this question or another about the guy you’re currently digging? Hopelessly wondering to yourself, why does he do that? It seems no matter how hard we try, we just can’t seem to figure out the intricacies of the opposite sex. Our quest to understand their logic leaves us stumped and wishing we could decode the male species.

    Research has proven that in fact men are from Mars and women are from Venus, so to speak. Our brains are simply wired differently and excel at different things.  A recent study conducted by the University of Pennsylvania School of Medicine revealed that “female brains … facilitate emotional processing and the ability to infer others’ intentions in social interactions. Male brains, however, [have a] greater synergy between perception and action.” In a nutshell men are predisposed to action based on what they see and women tend to act more on what they feel and they context of a situation. As a result it can often seem that we speak a different language.

    What’s a Single Girl to do with this information? Our habitual approach has been to try to make sense of the men in our lives. Unfortunately, we have learned the hard way that this is a battle we’re just not meant to win.

    We asked ourselves, “why not take a different approach?” Why not confront the men and ask them the pressing questions we’re dying to know the answers to. Let’s go straight to the source to find out why they act the way they do and the logic that goes into decisions we just can’t make sense of (seriously, WHY did you disappear??).

    In an informal test (i.e. one night at a bar), we informed a few strangers that we had a blog for quarter-life women. When we asked them to let us in on a few of their secrets the reaction we received was beyond our greatest expectation. The guys were thrilled to share and actually wanted us to get the word out to other girls about what to think about their behavior as well as what to do/not to do if you want to keep a guy’s interest.

    Of course we don’t want to hog all of this valuable knowledge to ourselves. We want to share it with all of our exceptional readers. We also want to make sure you get to weigh-in with your most pressing questions for our team of guys.

    For the next two-weeks we’re looking for you, our readers, to submit your questions about the opposite sex. Whatever is weighing on your mind, send it our way! Our expert panel will clue us in on the answers we’ve been craving.

     

    Send all questions to leadingladies@toastmeetsjam.com or tweet them @SingleDiariesXO.

     

    Come back in February to see your questions answered!

     

    Superbly Single,
    Jen

  • The Power in Power Couples

    The Single Diaries tackles the question of what makes “power couples” unique

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    PHOTOS: NY Daily News, Fanpop, Salon, NPR.

    As you know, a lady can be “superbly single” whether she’s single or in a relationship. Let’s talk about the ultimate independent women with plus ones: one half of the power couples. Movements by themselves but forces when they’re together, power couples are made up of two stand-alone powerhouses. We love them. We want to be them. So what’s their secret? Here’s our take on the elusive power couple.

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  • The Rules | A Single Girl’s Reinterpretation

    The Single Diaries Decodes The Rules Dating Wisdom

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    A few weeks ago we posed the question, have you ever heard of or read The Rules? The Rules: Time-tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right was published in 1995 by Ellen Fein and Sherries Schneider, a dynamic duo with the guise that they had this whole dating thing figured out. The golden rule upon which their dating bible was built is the simple premise that men must be the aggressors in a relationship. The Rules is essentially a 35-point action plan to carry this out. Fast forward almost 20 years and The Rules may feel a bit archaic.

    With guidelines such as “Don’t Talk to a Man First” and “Don’t  Talk Too Much,” The Rules seems a far cry from the Lean In culture today’s Single Girl has embraced. With good cause, women are being prompted more than ever to be more aggressive in claiming ownership over the course of their lives. Want to be CEO of a big company one day? Fight your way to the top! Want to marry the man of your dreams? Buy the ring and ask him yourself! The message is coming across loud and clear: “the rules” are changing.

    With all of that said, The Rules continues to survive even in a Sheryl Sandberg world. In addition to having been a best-selling book at the time of release, the authors spawn new versions of The Rules every few years and continue to find themselves attracting publicity. This had me wondering, is there something about The Rules that defies the test of time? As crazy as they might initially seem, do they actually work?’

    Having read the book myself, my short answer to the question is “Yes, I believe in The Rules.” BUT (of course there’s a but), I also believe they only work so much as today’s Single Girl is able to pass them through the filter of the present realities. The key is to be smart about The Rules and to reapply them in a way that makes sense. To give you a better sense of what I mean, I’ve taken 15 of The Rules suggestions and decoded them into a set of practical guidelines that I believe actually make sense for our Tinder, Twitter, Insta, Chatting worlds. Read on for The Single Diaries take on The Rules.

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