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How to Say “Hello”

Best practices for meeting Mr. Right Now

PHOTO: Celebration of Women.

There I was just a-walkin’ down the street singin’ do-wah diddy… I locked eyes with a cute stranger for a full 45 seconds then continued on my merry way without looking back. A simple “hello” in that situation would’ve sufficed to save myself 24 hours of shoulda coulda woulda. I’m a firm believer in things working out as they should, so there is no real loss here… only a lesson in taking a chance when the opportunity presents itself.

It’s tough enough to put yourself out there in a social situation. What more when you’re in a public place that isn’t natural for opening up to conversation? As with most things, practice makes perfect. Especially if you aren’t one to strike up a conversation with just anyone, start small.
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August 19, 2014
In It For the Long Haul | A Reflection on a Long-Term Relationship

6 lessons in a 6-year long-term relationship from Angelo Ignacio, our first male contributor

PHOTO: Angelo Ignacio.

This year I celebrate six wonderful years with my girlfriend. Leezel and I are now often the longest running couple among our friends, but we continue to learn new things about each other and what it takes to keep building this love fortress that we have invested in over time.

In reflecting about our relationship thus far, I immediately thought of sharing some of the past years’ biggest learnings. In the advent of sites like BuzzFeed and Thought Catalog, I read some pretty corny articles that have attempted to portray the beauty of relationships. While some of it is true, I find most of them so one-sided; they never talk about the hardships that are absolutely imminent. If there is one thing I’ve learned, it’s that love takes work, not dreams. This woman has been worth every bit of it.

In the spirit of a young love still eager to learn, here are six important truths I’ve discovered about playing for the long run. They are very real to me and may take a second or even third read to wrap your head around. I’ve come to understand that these ideals are what have elevated Zel and me in the game of hearts. I hope you’ll take something from what has taken me 6 years to find and accept. (more…)

August 13, 2014
How to Let Them Down Gently

A guide to bar etiquette and saying “no” gracefully

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The guy who comes up from behind and starts dancing without warning. The guy who thinks a sexist comment or an insult is a great conversation opener. The guy who thinks that making eye contact with you means he’s your boyfriend. We’ve all experienced our fair share of creeps at the bars. That said, during a passionate conversation with a friend of a friend, I found myself defending the general population of guys at bars. After all, my guy friends—most of whom are nice, respectable and respectful gentlemen—go to bars, and I would bet that yours do too. They’re not all creeps! Once you change your perception and open your eyes, you may surprise yourself at what’s right in front of you. Here is a guide to bar etiquette. Turning down a date does not have to be insulting; in fact, if you do it right you may even impress another eligible date nearby.

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May 1, 2014
Your Guide to Girl Friend Dating

Follow Our Action Plan for Making New Girl Friends

Let’s face it, making new girl friends after college can be tough. In college we have classes, sororities, dorm rooms, and clubs that throw us together with thousands of other young women. It’s nearly impossible to not find at least a handful that you connect with. Enter the post-grad world and things aren’t so easy. Sure you may meet a few girls through work but beyond that, chance interactions don’t come around quite so often. Furthermore, when you do find a girl that you think you could be friends with it can feel awkward to kick off the relationship. How do you strike up a conversation, where do you take it from there, what does it take to take it to the next level? It’s starting to sound a lot like real dating isn’t it?

If we take a second look, the process of making new girl friends is not that different from that of finding a potential soul mate. You have to find them, break into their world, get to know each other, and ultimately lock in a mutual love and respect for one another. You are in fact, girl friend dating. To help you navigate the process we’ve put together a handy guide to help you go from meeting acquaintances to securing new BFFs. Read on for our guide to girl friend dating and then let us know what additional advice you have for other Single Girls looking to expand their inner circle!

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April 2, 2014
10 Ways To Get Over Heartbreak in 1 Day

Superbly Single Girl Monique Shares Her Advice for Healing a Heartbreak

I thought the weeks after we broke up would be terrible, lonely, and sad. Instead, I created an experiment to test how quickly I could get over him.

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I once had a friend tell me, “I like getting dumped. At least it means I tried.”

I met a guy, I tried, and I got dumped. I really liked this guy. I never once thought he wouldn’t want to make things work with me. I was crying. I had to get on a flight home. I sat there in the airport terminal dreading the emotions I was going to have to suffer through until I got over him. Disappointment. Loneliness. Confusion. Sadness. More crying. Then I thought “STOP.” I don’t want to suffer through that. I want my life to be happy. And I created a plan. I called it “How I’m Going To Get Over Heartbreak In 1 Day.”

I chose “1 Day” because I didn’t think he deserved to take any more than 1 day of happiness out of my life. Life is short. I don’t want to waste it being unhappy. I have to protect my happiness. If I lose it, I have to get it back as quickly as possible.

So these are the 10 things I did to “Get Over Heartbreak in 1 Day”…

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March 5, 2014