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Category: My Diaries

My personal dating stories

  • My Computer Crashed, and I Survived

    My Computer Crashed, and I Survived

    Catherine reflects on a computer crash and packing up the last nine years

    PHOTO: JJ Jumoc-Casas.
    PHOTO: JJ Jumoc-Casas.

    There are times the worst case scenario pops into your head. “Wouldn’t it suck if it rained on our picnic?” And then it does. This week I put my computer to sleep for an hour, and it never woke up the same. Just earlier that day I was thinking about how much a crash would jeopardize my work. And when it happened I was in disbelief over the coincidence. A computer crash is the most feared catastrophe for someone who is self-employed and relies on their beloved laptop for nearly everything.

    My first thoughts were of the supposed devastation. My next were of a tinge of relief: in light of my move from Los Angeles to San Francisco, maybe I have a chance at starting fresh. Completely.

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  • What I Love About My City | Catherine’s Los Angeles

    What I Love About My City | Catherine’s Los Angeles

    Catherine reveals her top ten in the Los Angeles Westside

    PHOTO: Catherine Abalos
    PHOTO: Catherine Abalos

    Welcome to a special edition of What I Love About My City—a series in which our favorite single girls dish on everything from the best places for a single girls weekend to the secret spots only the locals know about. This time I’m taking over with a twist, bringing you the best of Los Angeles from my perspective.

    If you haven’t heard the news, I’m in transition moving from L.A. back to my hometown in the San Francisco Bay Area. In an ode to my home of nine years (I spent the first four in college), I wanted to share my City of Angels. Los Angeles is made up of over 80 neighborhoods, and mine is part of the beautiful Westside. One of the best things about this major U.S. city is its diversity and space for everyone to create their own version of the city. You can be a struggling actor (literally) or a multi-millionaire and find activities, food, and people that appeal to you; granted, it takes some work. I love that Los Angeles is something different to every single person that lives there. I love how much flack it gets from people who don’t truly understand the hidden nuances. I love how you can drive to a different neighborhood and feel like you’re somewhere new entirely. You never run out of places to explore. Each of those 80 neighborhoods has its own character, and I’m so excited to share some of the best things about the Westside.

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  • Twenty-Seven | What I’ve Learned Thus Far

    Catherine sums up a month of reflection in turning twenty-seven

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    Just a month after my 27th birthday, I already feel like a changed woman. Okay, it helps a lot that I left my job just two weeks prior to my birthday and essentially am living like a college kid on summer vacation… so after five years of a regular 9 to 6 job without a lot of free time to travel and breathe, feeling different was inevitable. Nevertheless, the change of pace prompted a lot of reflection and self-discovery. Here’s what I’ve learned since turning 27.

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  • Retreats: The Journey, Not the Destination

    Retreats: The Journey, Not the Destination

    Lara Torii shares a lesson in forgiveness + tips for making the most of your time away

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    To say I’m familiar with retreats is an understatement. I’m a bit of a self-care junkie. If I could go on a retreat every month I probably would. I was fortunate enough to go on two in the last three months. After three years of volunteering—two of which were international—my program sent me on a ten-day re-entry retreat.

    Before I started each year of volunteering, I attended an orientation retreat to prepare myself for community, social justice, simplicity, and spirituality. This was my first time attending a re-entry retreat, specifically for people who have gone abroad and have to deal with reverse culture shock. The activities were geared towards helping us heal the hurts of the past, celebrate the joys, and move forward with purpose.

    If I have learned anything during my time as a volunteer, it is that life is best lived open-heartedly. I always try to let go of any preconceived notions I have of any situation and any person I meet. So I made my way to San Antonio ready to receive whatever the ten days had in store.

    What Is a Retreat?

    For me, retreats have always been an opportunity to step back, evaluate life, and take a breather. I’ve been on retreats where we are given tons of space to talk to each other. I’ve also been on silent retreats where we are asked to unplug from all forms of chatter. Regardless, retreats offer activities to help you balance the emotional, physical, mental, and social aspects of yourself.

    One of my favorite retreat activities is hiking by myself or with a group. I always feel reset by getting my blood flowing, breathing fresh air, and letting go of those routine thought processes. That is one of the most beneficial things about retreats: they are active breaks from the daily routine, a break—unlike a vacation—that allows you to make space for new energy, new creativity, new insight. If it’s not possible to commit to a full guided retreat (typically two to seven nights), we may try to find ways to step back from our daily lives in smaller ways. However, in this time of constant social media and technological connection, we can all benefit from time away. Here is what I learned from stepping away from the everyday and a list of things to keep in mind once you commit to a retreat.

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  • New View New You – Featured on Quarterlette!

    New View New You – Featured on Quarterlette!

    How Moving to L.A. Literally & Figuratively Changed My View on Life

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    Single Girls if you caught our post Favorite Sites for Life Advice then you already know I am a huge fan of the ladies over at Quarterlette. These rockin’ women exemplify what it means to us to be a Single Girl and we couldn’t agree more with their site’s mission to “support, guide & inspire women through their quarter-lives.” I’m excited to announce that today’s post is actually featured on Quarterlette as part of their series The Moving Diaries. The series was inspired by the idea that behind every move there is always a story – an end, a new beginning, a challenge, whatever it may be moves always signal change. This was certainly the case for me when I decided to move to Los Angeles in 2011. The story behind my move was the need for a fresh perspective on life. Yes, the official reason I moved was because of a job offer but the real reason, the reason that had truly compelled me to pack my bags reached far deeper. I’d grown tired of my life in my hometown and needed to do something drastic to shake it up.

    Head on over to Quarterlette to catch the full article!